Trust
Dont you trust me? How many times have you heard somebody say this to you? Well here's my take.
Trust is one of those defining things that characterise any relationship. So basically the dynamics of the relationship is built on the level of trust.
Some people say once you gain someone's trust they should trust you no matter what. Well thats nice but that seems strange to me( thats the cynic in me I guess).
Trust seems to me to be one of those things that someone constantly earns. Let's take our mothers for example. We trust our mothers almost completely, thats because throughout the course of our lives they have always chosen what was best for us, sometimes in lieu of treating themselves. That bond of trust has been solidified.
Having said that, if they were to somehow, for some strange reason, deliberately chose to hurt you, whether emotionally or physically, all that trust built up over those years could be shattered.
That's why I think trust is a deep thing that is gained OVER TIME. This is also why I find it strange when people claim to completely trust people that they have know for a short time.
There are degrees of trust no doubt. But that deep lasting trust must be earned constantly.
Thoughts?
PS. Happy Valentines Day.
Trust is one of those defining things that characterise any relationship. So basically the dynamics of the relationship is built on the level of trust.
Some people say once you gain someone's trust they should trust you no matter what. Well thats nice but that seems strange to me( thats the cynic in me I guess).
Trust seems to me to be one of those things that someone constantly earns. Let's take our mothers for example. We trust our mothers almost completely, thats because throughout the course of our lives they have always chosen what was best for us, sometimes in lieu of treating themselves. That bond of trust has been solidified.
Having said that, if they were to somehow, for some strange reason, deliberately chose to hurt you, whether emotionally or physically, all that trust built up over those years could be shattered.
That's why I think trust is a deep thing that is gained OVER TIME. This is also why I find it strange when people claim to completely trust people that they have know for a short time.
There are degrees of trust no doubt. But that deep lasting trust must be earned constantly.
Thoughts?
PS. Happy Valentines Day.
posted by Splint at 4:06 AM
3 Comments:
Agreed. Trust is something that is built over time. It's also something that can be lost if they offending party does something to betray that trust. You can't just implicitly trust someone....it has to be gained. And once you lose something you have to go about earning that again. That's definitely related to the trust issue. I agree with yah wholeheartedly. You old cynic u :)
Happy Valentine's Day love *big huggz*
Valentine's Day is bere junk.
oh.. and never trust a Bananer.
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